grouchy when older

no one knows what a person has gone through in life except that person.  when you come across an older person and that person is grouchy you wonder why are they grouchy.  you might know some things about that person and this will give you an idea of why they might be grouchy when they are older.  this person is obviously unhappy and they have seen their life as not going the way they wanted or expected.  they then become grouchy all of the time and it affects the people around them.  but because they are older, you let most of it go.  but it does start to put a lasting stain on all of the good memories you have had with that person over the years.  you try to talk to them – to tell them to not worry so much and to enjoy the time they have left.  but in reality you can’t convince them to be happy – there is no use in trying because their mind is already set into being sad, upset, worrisome and grouchy.  they might be happy here and there but it is too late to change their mindset – it has been in the making for decades and has now come out to the world as grouchy.  it is sad to see but you can’t really do anything about it except hold your tongue and try not to agitate them.  you can also learn from them.  this is a lesson to you – that if you are lucky to reach the ripe old age that they have reached remember to not be grouchy – to not diminish all the strong family relationships you have in place – and have worked so hard at over the years.  don’t be that grouch.  enjoy your loved ones and stop feeling sorry for yourself and thinking about only you all the time.  think about the younger people in your family and be happy for them.  stop being selfish and stop being grouchy.  stop it right now before it is too late.