when you talk to someone, there must be a back and forth conversation. it cannot be a one sided conversation. you must ask questions and they must ask questions. you can’t keep “pulling teeth” forever in a relationship. it is ok to have pauses or silence when with others – that is healthy and normal – even signifying that your friendship has reached a new level of comfort. but that takes years to reach. if you have no back and forth conversation at the start of the initial interaction – then this person is not your best fit for friendship. there must be a natural flow in the early conversations. if there is not – then give it a few more tries – and if the same scenario – simply move on. life is way too short to stick around folks that don’t provide a back and forth conversation. you are not being rude, you are being honest. it is good for them and it is good for you.
