routine, not control

we all get into routines.  we all need routines.  you need a routine to stay on track.  you need a routine to stay sane.  a routine is good for your physical and mental health.  without routines, we would be lost.  it is the natural flow of life to fall into routines.  once the routine is set, we don’t need to think about it.  you fall into a routine without even noticing.  life is made up of a series of routines.  a routine determines what you do in life and when you do things in the day, the week, the month, the year and throughout your life.  the routine controls most of your actions.  but sometimes routines can cause conflicts.  this happens when people think that you are trying to control a situation or a decision, especially in a relationship – when it might just be that you are letting your routine guide you.  you are not trying to control everything, you are following your routine – and sometimes that can be seen as control, not routine.  look at what you are doing and see if it is part of your routine – and you are not deliberately trying to exert control over someone else’s life.  you should align your routines with your partner’s routines – to avoid conflict and misunderstanding.  if you are a good match and have similar interests, then the routines should naturally align.  but if conflict arises, just refer to the routines and see if that is the issue.  if it is not, then you might be trying to control someone.