life can be easy if you live by your gut and instinct. you don’t have to worry as much, knowing that your gut will guide you. the answers to your questions are always there, waiting to be heard and acted upon. but in order to use the gut correctly, you need to be patient. and with patience, you need to understand that life follows a long path –that life is truly a marathon. this is hard to grasp when you are living in the day to day –it is hard to see the big picture –that every choice you make is all part of a grand plan. all that we need to do is prepare for each step of the process and then act upon what the gut says at the moment the gut says to act. if you follow this method – prepare, patience, plan, timing –you will reach your goals and you will know when to act. if you do not follow this method and ignore the gut, then you will never reach the goals you have always dreamed you would reach. following this process is also following your destiny. there is a destiny laid for everyone when they are born, but you have to believe you have a destiny and you have to follow this path of destiny by following the destiny method. by doing so, when you know, you will know.
Category: Life
why chill when you are older?
when i see older people doing very chill activities, like golfing or walking in the middle of the day, i first think why have they stopped pursuing new goals, why are they content not driving themselves to reach higher heights anymore? i don’t get it because i can’t possibly fathom stopping the pursuit of success at every turn. how can one stop everything and stare at the sea for hours. how can one wake up early, eat dinner early and go to bed early? how can one not talk all the time and not drive fast to get to their destination sooner? how can one not be on the phone all the time and stop going at a frantic pace from one event to the next? but then 1 day, when i am frantic in my mid 40s, it all comes to me. they don’t do all this stuff anymore because they don’t have to. life has slowed down, kids have grown up, keeping up with the jones’ doesn’t matter anymore, caring what others think doesn’t matter anymore. they have been there, done that. no need to stress over these trivial things, no need to rush anymore. the only care is living the last years the best that you can. you rushed around like a chicken with your head cut off for 20, 30 years –you are tired, you are done with that, you can now stare at the sea and not feel like you are missing anything, because you are not missing anything. you didn’t want to miss any party at 20, you didn’t want to miss any event at 40, and you didn’t care what you missed at 60. I get it.
life moves very fast
looking back is an interesting hobby –one that develops more and more as the years go by. you can start to analyze the different phases of your life by looking back. you can see that the early years up until 18 are like watching an old movie in your mind. you see yourself playing sports, meeting friends, having birthday parties, going to school, being mean to others, being nice to others, fighting with your parents in the teen years –but mostly having fun with the only stress being school and social settings. then by the 20’s, your life is full of so many events –mostly good times that now seem so long ago and you wonder wow –things seemed to move slow then but now they seem to have happened in a flash. you wonder where the 20’s went and why you did not relish the moment more. the 30’s are also filled with so many events –but you do start to become more aware of your life –where it has been, where it is going, how will you end up, what have you done, what can you still do. you do take in the moment more –but still gone in a flash when you look back on it. by the 40s, the stress starts to build –stress about kids, work, not enough time to complete all your goals. you might find yourself waking up in the middle of the night and having your fears fighting to keep you awake. it is truly a challenging time period where you start to question everything you have done –has it been good enough. i can see how a mid-life crisis can develop if you let your fears get the best of you. you have to fight more than ever to keep your grip on life. get through this time period and more glory will come after. it is so hard for the human mind to get a grip on this whole life thing –to try and grab hold of one brief moment is difficult to do. we can only think this deeply on the subject very briefly –otherwise it will consume you and affect your actions in life. you need to keep on track, keep doing what you are doing –enjoying every moment the best you can –and knowing that some things you cannot control –like life and time seeming to move so fast when you look back on life. it is ok to acknowledge these ideas –but just continue to live the best way you can –without losing your grip too much.
be bold always
when you are young, you are bold. this is obvious. but you are bold because you are young. you don’t know that much about life or the world, so you take bold steps naturally. you do not stop and think –you just do it. you do it because it is fun. you do it because it is something different to do. you do it because it is there to do. you do it because you have no responsibility to anyone else. why not do it and experience the world in a bold fashion. this bold mindset is what can push someone to go off the common path and be different. it can cause you to make an impact early in life. it can cause you to make change in the world. being bold can set you on a bold path in life – it can affect your life dramatically. but oftentimes, the bold steps we take when we are younger are small bold steps. they let you experience the world more but do not necessarily change the world in any way. as time goes on, the boldness dies down and you settle into your life of fixed habits and routine. this is also the natural way and is the way of self preservation. but what we miss deep in our soul is to be bold again. to use the past experience of being bold to still be bold and to still take the bold steps necessary to feed the never-ending desire to make bold change in your life and in the world. the hardest thing to do when you are older is to keep the boldness alive in your every day life – to keep pushing the limit by being bold. it is even hard to know that you must continue to be bold to be happy. so, stop and think about being bold once in awhile. look and see where you can be bold to keep life interesting. it is another great challenge in life to be forever bold. but to live life to the fullest, you must be bold always. stop the routine right now, right this very minute and be bold.
a boring day
yes, this is something that hits everyone’s mind –and does so quite often as well. we have boring days –it is a fact. we all have these days, even if you are in full swing at work or at home – the day can still be boring. we call it boring because it seems to be a day that includes things we have done over and over – nothing new arises – at least nothing we think significant arises. this causes us to think that the day is a waste – that this day doesn’t mean anything in our lives. we don’t like to think about the idea of wasting a day, since every day gone is one step closer to the end. however, if you think about that boring day a little more –and you do the thinking on that boring day, you can see that the day does have significance. it has it in this way. you need to stop (which is easy on a boring day) –and you need to think about where you are and what you have in life at that moment. when you do that, you realize that the boring day is actually a reflection of a state of happiness in your life. you are bored because you have everything you need. and i mean this on a emotional and human side of things –rather than a materialistic side. you have the right people in your life and you have the right life on the personal side. realize this concept and you will accept a boring day more easily –and it will allow you to think that you have not wasted a day. however, you still want to accomplish more things in life and you don’t want to think that you wasted a day in your journey to have accomplishments. but, here again, you must realize that life is a marathon and is not dictated by every action in every single day. the key is to be patient and realize that boring days also are part of the journey to succeed in life. bottomline: don’t let boring days leave a lasting negative impression in your life and think about what you have more on those boring days.
why i post
a method to my madness
sickness clears the mind
i have been in bed for 4 days with influenza. you know you are suffering when you sweat through 5 shirts in one night. you know you are suffering when you have a 102 temp for six days straight, you know you are suffering when you cough a burning hole in your chest for a week. you know you are suffering when you spouse has to tend to your every need for 4 days in a row. there is only 1 lesson to take away from this –get your flu shot every year regardless of anything else going on in your life. yet, through all this suffering in the waning days of 2012, there is a blessing that occurs. your mind becomes clear like never before. you instantly know where you stand in life with yourself, with your family, with your friends. you know that every move you make going into each new year are the right moves and that you should not force any moves –life will guide you. you do not need to fear the unknown of the future –life will guide you through every success and failure. you do not need to 2nd guess your past actions –those actions happened because they were meant to happen. friends will come and go and those that stick are meant to stick. don’t fret over lost friends. don’t feel guilt that you might have caused the loss. you can only do what you have to do –what life wants you to do. we do have a destiny and the sooner we embrace this idea, the sooner your destiny will reveal itself. even from the flu, good can come. this is not plain optimism, this is a lifelong embrace of your destiny. embrace it- don’t fight it.
change
change is coming. it is always coming –every day, every week, every month, every year. and sometimes you know in your gut that change is near –that bigger change is near. you must not be afraid of this change. you must realize that this change is meant to happen. you must not fear what happens when this change occurs. you must know that no matter what change happens, you are always prepared because change cannot affect who you are –it can only affect what happens to you. who you are will always stand above the change. this will help keep you grounded and in control when the change happens. this will help move you through the change and into the next part of your life –which will come after the change. change always requires extra work on your part. you need to think more outside the box. you need to think outside your routine. you need to rely more on your inherent survival skills. your natural reactions to the change will guide you through the early part of the change process –you don’t have to worry about how you will react to change immediately. change is good because it forces you to grow stronger and to learn new things. embrace change and do not be afraid.
markers
markers are spots throughout your life that you can look back on to remember the good times. these would be events or trips that you plan specifically to have fun and enjoy life. the markers are the times when you step away from the every day normal routine and do something that brings a thrill to your soul –putting goosebumps on your skin. these are times that you will never forget –times that you anticipate with baited breath –times that make you say “wow’! you know what i mean –it is that girl’s trip or guy’s trip that you make where all daily worries fade away for a few days –where you rip it up and toss caution into the wind –when you stop and smell the roses every minute. you need these markers in life or you really won’t be living a life. markers get you through the daily BS –they get you to the next year, the next week, the next day. make room for marker events in your life otherwise you will live a dull life and die a slow, boring death. you need markers throughout life and you definitely need them at the end so that you can look back and say “yes”. get busy planning and living.