October 2023 – xangst

real power is continuing on

do not give up

do not give in

do not stop

do not yield to evil

do not sacrifice yourself

do not follow bad thoughts

do not say bad thoughts

do not yield to bad people

the real power of life is to continue on in your life without giving in to bad things. stay on the right track. keep your tight grip on life. follow your strong good habits. follow your consistent good routine. keep getting out of bed. keep doing what you are supposed to do. do not give up your life when you still have life to live. this is real power. to stay in the fight of life. to not leave the ring until it is truly your time. if you can make it to the end with your honor intact – with your dignity intact – with your character intact – it will be then and only then when you have won the game of life. stay strong and stay in the game – do not yield to things that want to pull you out of the game. this is real power – staying the course no matter what.

the empty nest factor

this empty nest thing is very interesting. you spend 20 years raising kids to get ready for the world and then one day they are gone. you come home after dropping them off at college and the first thing that you do is cry like a baby. you cry because your life of the last 20 years has changed significantly – in what seems like an instant. it feels like a death in the family. the person is gone – time to clear out the food, the clothes, etc.

you devote so much of your time and energy into other people’s lives that it seems like a moment of shock when you don’t have to do that anymore. you suddenly realize that you have moved back into an earlier phase of your life – the life before kids. but this time you are 20-30 years older and you have become dependent on your dependents!

so what do you do when the tears dry up? many people keep crying and seem to go into mourning for some time. they can’t handle it – they want to have their old life back – when there were more people around the house – when life seemed more alive -when you were needed more by other people.

others jump for joy – freedom is finally here! – let’s go! let’s travel! let’s do whatever we want! we all eventually get to this feeling but sometimes it takes awhile. you have to reset your mind, you have to reset your habits, you have to reset your routines – and you have to get used to living with your spouse again – one on one.

at the end of the day, this is just another phase in life and like all phases – we must learn to adapt to the new phase. we must move forward and embrace this new empty nest phase. we must not look back – we must look forward and enjoy the life we have left.

20-40 years

once you hit 50 years old – that’s all you have left to live – 20-40 years if you are lucky. so think about life that way. think to yourself – “i have 20-40 years left in my life – and that’s it”

when you start to give a damn about what people think about you – think 20-40

when you start to care if you are not included in events, etc – think 20-40

when you have people that don’t reciprocate a friendship – think 20-40

when people don’t have time for you – think 20-40

when people don’t ask questions about your life – think 20-40

when people think they are better than you – think 20-40

when people show off – think 20-40

when people are rude to you – think 20-40

That’s it! 20-40 years left! so why do you give a shit about any of these things, when in 20-40 years, you will be dead!

in other words – do what makes you happy, do what makes your family happy, do whatever you want – and stop caring about anything else because in 20-40 years – you will be dead and the world will go on without you – and in a couple of generations, no one will know your name – live YOUR damn life the way you want to live it – and the sooner you figure this out, the sooner you will stop caring about things that don’t matter and you will stop worrying all the time – and you might actually do more with your life!

goodbye – nothing else to say here – the message is crystal clear!