i have found that you need to be relentless in life to get what you want. and even then it is not guaranteed that you will reach your goals. that is how hard it is to get to where you think you need to be. you have to be relentless in your actions to succeed. you have to be a robot that keeps the pressure always on. you have to not even think about it, you have to just do it – over and over and over. and then hopefully you wake up one day with a feeling of hope that you are getting closer – that being relentless is the only way to get there. you have to keep smiling and thinking the corner is coming – you will get to that corner and be able to look around to what is ahead. right now you just see a long road ahead – you don’t see anything in the distance – you only see endless road. you can’t stop because there is nothing to stop for – it would be pointless. so you have to keep going on and on – you have to be relentless in this pursuit of finding a glimmer in the distance to reach for – finding a corner to the road. it is the only way to live. it is a painful way to live and sometimes a boring way to live. but if you do stay relentless, if you do keep pushing no matter what – then you will reach a destination. they say that you never reach a destination and i can believe that. they say that the journey is the real destination, and i can believe that. but there is complete satisfaction in completing the task you are on now. it may not be the end of the journey, but it is a mindset to keep being relentless. you will reach mini-destinations and you will feel satisfaction. that is all we can hope for in life – to be satisfied. to say in that moment “i am satisfied” and “i did it”. and even if you don’t get satisfaction by not completing the task – the next best thing is being satisfied that you tried and that you were relentless. that is all you can ask for from yourself in life and you can find satisfaction with that result as well. we want to be satisfied and to be satisfied, we have to be relentless. if you are relentless, regardless of the result, you will be satisfied.
Author: xangst
cherish them
it came to me last night when i pray each night for my loved ones. i go through the names of all my relatives. i then realized that there are only 3 immediate family members left that are in the golden age of life. we need to cherish them in these final years because when they are gone, there won’t be anyone left at that age – only you marching towards that time in your life. it will come quickly – like everything in life. you will one day soon be that older person. you will be the one your younger relatives pray for. keep praying for them while they are alive so you can know that you have a limited time with them – to enjoy now before it is too late. pray for them because you will be them soon. they need you as much as you need them. they were there for you when you were younger – and now you must be there for them. it is the right thing to do. you know it – you just have to do it. cherish them.
safety
you must always be safe. you must always be alert to your safety and the safety of your loved ones. take that extra step and watch out for your loved ones. when a loved one is not able to always be safe, you must keep an eye out for them. one lapse in your safety watch could mean life or death. death can happen at any moment and it is always a surprise. you will not be warned that death is near. you will not have time to think about life or death. you must not hesitate in the moment of life or death. you must let your instinct take over. you must act without thinking to save a life. to avoid more moments like this, raise your alert level to a higher point. make the conscious effort to look again – to watch out for your loved ones. this will help prevent life or death moments. without saying, safety is the key to living longer. be on the lookout for danger at all times and you will be safe most of the time.
keep your head down
when you are working, especially at a new job, you have to keep your head down and just work. don’t look up and try to see what lies ahead — just dig into the work and focus on the work. if you keep your head down and put in maximum effort, you will reach your goals. this is a good example of trying your best and not thinking about every little consequence or detail — just work and focus on the daily work –and from that will come success. you must remain calm while you keep your head down – you must remain patient – even if results are not immediate. you must be confident that if you keep your head down and do the work –you will be rewarded and you will go on to have great success at your current venture. but if you do not keep your head down in the 1st year of employment at your new job, then you will have a higher chance of failing. keep calm, be patient and keep your head down. follow this and all will be fine. but this is not easy to do. it requires focus and determination.
working hard
what does this really mean? it is a relative term. some people think they are working hard, but they might not be working hard at all. working hard is doing something at the highest output level. you are giving it your best effort all through the day, week, year. you feel tired at the end of the day and tired when you wake up in the morning – but you still want to go to work and put in the same effort as the day before. we all work hard at times, but what we need to do is work hard all the time. this will allow us to reach our highest potential in our career and in life. there will always be time to not work so hard when we are older. and we always have the weekends to relax. always work hard at your highest level possible and you will not have any regrets in life.
stop cursing
i have had a dirty mouth since i was a kid. i used to curse all the time just like the kid from the bad news bears. i even had my mouth washed out with soap at summer camp. maybe it was because my parents were divorced and it was another way to express my frustration or get attention. either way, i still curse a lot, especially when i drink. i am sure people look at me and grimace when i do this. the point is i need to stop doing this once and for all. it only makes me look like a fool. i recently realized that it is a childish thing to do and i need to stop acting like i did when i was a kid. it is not good for my kids to see me cursing all the time. i will stop cursing around other people and my kids. i will, however, reserve the right to curse around other folks that curse and if needed in a business environment to fire someone up. it is part of who i am and will not kill it off altogether.
go for it
sometimes in life, you have to just go for it. sometimes in life, you have to take a less calculated risk and go for it. you need to grab every opportunity and make big bets to get ahead. you need to go for it to challenge yourself. if you are not going for it, you are not challenging yourself enough. you need to think about the big picture and how our time is always running to the end. you need to think that this is it – 1 life and in this life you need to go for it. if you do not go for it, then you are satisfied with the life you have and have decided that there is no need to go for more challenges. that is fine. most of the world just wants to be healthy and happy. but if you want to go after more challenges and go after every opportunity to live a fuller life –then you must go for it. you must not think about the consequences of failing when you go for it — you can always pick yourself back up and go for it again. you want to have stories when you get to the end. you want to say that you went for it at every turn – that you lived life to the fullest. you want to say that you are so damn tired from going for it, that you are ready to say good-bye when the time comes. you want to say “damn right i went for it and there is not much more to say or do – i’m done!”
show love and support
you need to show love and support to the ones you love. you need to do this often. you need to take advantage of the moment and show love. this is the only time you will be able to show this love and support for this particular need at this particular moment. if you miss the moment, then you need to tell that person that you are sorry you missed the moment to support them – and then show that love and support at that moment of reconciliation. so often, a person is looking for that love and support and so often, we do not give it. this leads to a lifetime of missed moments and only creates more space between the 2 people — which is not a good thing when you want the relationship to last a lifetime. if you can recognize at the moment that love and support is needed, you are ahead of the process. but, this is a hard process to conquer. the better move is to get in the habit of showing love and support on a regular basis. this will help you cover those critical moments when love and support is needed the most. don’t get down on yourself for missing that moment today – go back and correct it at the first possible next moment together. then get in the habit of doing this regularly – and you will not miss this moment again and your love for each other will grow – rather than wither away by not being conscious of these things. these moments are very important to your own stability and the stability of others.
content with patience
there is something that only comes with age – and that is wisdom. we all know this fact. but do we really know what it means. we think it means that we know more – which we certainly do know more. but do we use this wisdom to our benefit or to help steer our lives. unconsciously we do use wisdom to steer our lives. we stop doing things that are not smart to do. we start doing things that are smart to do. but to use wisdom in a conscious way is truly revolutionary and is a secret key to a better life. i found this concept ring true when I realized that I was suddenly in a waiting period of my life. i realized that all that talk about patience being a virtue was now coming to life for me. i wanted the next phase of my life to begin, but nothing was happening. i then realized that waiting and being patient is a big part of life. i realized that jumping too soon at something is not the right way to go. i realized that being patient was all part of the process of moving to your next phase in life. you need to be patient and you need to be content with patience – waiting for precisely the right moment to leave the “patience stage” and enter the next challenging phase of your life. when you realize that patience actually helps you along in life and helps you determine the right time to jump –then you have an edge on life –and then you have true wisdom.
meeting by chance
does not happen. there are no such things as meeting someone by chance. every encounter is not by chance, it is meant to happen, it is part of your path of destiny. these could be brief encounters at the post office or sought after job interviews. the point is – you were supposed to be at that place at that moment –and there is a reason for every meeting. whether you see someone from long ago or you have just met them for the first time –these are not chance happenings. these are markers along your own individual path – fulfilling your own individual destiny. these “chance” encounters are sending you a message or a signal that you must interpret –and that you can interpret usually very easily. you say to yourself –“yes, I know why I ran into that person today – it all makes sense now”. each meeting gives you another piece of the puzzle – the puzzle of your life. don’t be surprised when you come across someone – and that meeting leads to good things or bad things – this is what is supposed to happen. you must take away what you can from each meeting – that is your job. learn why you had that meeting and become wiser from it.