look – things happen to all of us all of the time – and many of these things that happen are out of our control. it was not your fault – it happened out of your control. there was nothing you could have done to prevent this thing from happening. but we still feel bad and we still feel guilty. but we must understand that these things that happen out of our control is not our fault. you drive down the road and pebble kicks off the car in front of you and hits your windshield. is that your fault? no, not at all. you know this and i know this – but it still happened and it cost you money to fix – it was really just bad luck – that was out of your control. so don’t keep thinking about it and don’t keep blaming yourself. you must move on. you must put it behind you. there is no other choice. it’s like you can’t control what other people do or say. that also is out of your control. you are not supposed to control everything around you – that is not how the world works. the world works around you and you try to control the things in your area of the world. but like a stone hitting your windshield or a person doing or saying something unprovoked by you – are completely out of your control. so move on and stop thinking about it – it’s over – go forward and focus on what you can control.
