ah –this is one of the hardest things to practice.  we want to be modest, we don’t want to be an ass –but our inner self always pushes to be in charge and over-confident.  we are unstoppable and the world cannot live without us –and our job can’t do without us –we are too valuable to be let go! –obviously that is BS –but our inner voice does not know this –we are trained to be self-confident –but we must control these thoughts when our reputation, family, career are on the line.  we must get back in line and not jump out suddenly, tossing away all thoughts of modesty -this will only lead to trouble.  that is why when you are in a heated conversation –you must pause in your own mind and not say the absolute wrong thing –filter your words very carefully –and stay close to the modest line when in the thick of it –as you can always move forward from modesty in the future –but it is harder to back away from over-confidence and bravado.  this is not easy and emotions get in the way –you say to yourself –i am the “shit” and i want my way.  stop right there and go to modesty for the time being –it will help in the long run.  i am not saying to cower and not stand up for what you have accomplished –you do have rights and value –but don’t make any fatal moves –and modesty and help you keep away from the fatal moves.  even the most important person in the world must practice modesty –to remain relevant and to remain important in their own mind and in the world