when you go to sleep at night and then wake up in the middle of the night – you have many thoughts – we all know this
when waking up in the middle of the night, you are at your most vulnerable state
you are not as strong or confident as you are in the daytime
you can think very insecure thoughts upon waking up in the middle of the night
you can think that everything is going wrong, that you are a bad person, that you need to make drastic changes
this is the issue of waking up in the middle of the night and having these types of thoughts sometimes
it can shake you, it can rock you to your core, it can have you 2nd guess every choice that you have ever made
but when you wake up in the morning, you feel so much better, you feel your usual confidence, you feel your usual self
you then reject all of the bad thoughts from the nighttime – you go back to your old self and you stand by most of the choices that have shaped your life
the only thing you need to do now is remember that bad nighttime thoughts are not to be acted upon – wait until the morning and all will be better
it’s ok to write people off. i know we don’t want to be negative and we want to forgive. but sometimes it is better to write someone off and move on.
we have to follow our beliefs. we have to do what is right for our own self.
when we are young, we try to get along and we want people to like us
but as you get older, you start to see that not everyone likes you – and that is ok
you can’t dwell on why people don’t like you or why your friends are no longer your friends
it is the same when you write someone off – these people no longer fit your idea of a friend or acquaintance
you might have seen another side to them and you don’t like it
so you can keep going along or you can write them off
in reality, they don’t care if you write them off because they will also think about what is best for them – and if you are negative to them – they will write you off too
no one is right or wrong with the writing off process – but we all must continue on in life and we should shed what we perceive to be negative people or influences
it’s a defense mechanism but it is also a way to simplicity and clarity
will you end up all alone if you write everyone off – yes
should you write everyone off – no
use your gut, your instinct, message from god, etc. – to decide who to write off –
Writing off will always happen – it’s inevitable due to human nature
time is running out to speak up and say what you believe in every scenario. stop being quiet all the time – say what you feel is right.
we are all afraid to speak up and go against what others think. we need to say what we think – even if others don’t like your answer – even if others call you names – even if others turn against you – and turn away from you
these are not the right people for you – the ones that reveal their true self and they are not who you thought they were all these years
it’s ok to disagree but it’s not ok for these people to say what you know is wrong. their values are different than yours – turn away from these people once they are truly revealed. they are revealing themselves without knowing that the game is over with you. they will fool others but you have now seen the light
they try to justify their position, their beliefs, their viewpoints – and they act unreasonable – they make you feel like you are in the wrong
i am an american and i have a big ego – especially when talking about the rest of the world
all americans are taught when growing up that we are the best in the world, the leaders of the world, etc
we see what is going on and we say – yeah, we are at the top – we run things – we have the strongest military – we can kick anyone’s ass
for the most part – this is quite true – it is our time at the top – we can keep the rest of the world in line
but the problem is the ego thing – when we think all of these things – we get a big head – we disregard everyone else, we walk around in a loud way – and the rest of the world laughs at us behind our backs – they treat us poorly when we visit – but they put up with us because we have the $$ to spend, etc
and i have thought in this way too – until i bought this map and put it on my wall – see at bottom of post
this map shows a visual history of the world from 3000 bc to today
and what you quickly realize is how new the USA is compared to all the civilizations and empires before us
look way down at the bottom right – the purple area – that’s us – the time the USA has been around – then look at all the other colors and how long they have been around
for example – here is when these modern countries got organized-
Ireland – 750 AD Sweden – 1000 AD France – 500 AD England – 700 AD Italy – 1050 AD Spain – 800 AD
And of course USA is 1776 AD
So what this tells me is when I meet people from these other countries or when i visit these other countries – i need to respect them more
they were here way before us and we just seem to brush that over with our ego of here and now
it’s ok to have the american ego – it helps us achieve great things – but let’s also think about the histories of these other countries and give them respect
the individual mind of a human is constantly fighting itself – good thoughts vs bad thoughts – this is the paradox of being human and the side effect of having such an intelligent brain
yes, humans will achieve great things across history, but in doing so, they will always have to fight the demons at their door
across human history, things will be put in place to manage the individual demons – these things are in the form of government and religion
government and religion are necessary for humans to advance – to survive – to thrive – it keeps them on track and away from the demons in the individual mind
without them, chaos and evil and destruction would rule – and there would be no such thing as civilization
you ever notice how the animals just get on with it? every day they wake up and do what they are supposed to do. this is not the same with humans. because our brains are more developed, we tend to think more than animals. our brain gets in the way of waking up and just doing what we are supposed to do. our brain says don’t do what you are supposed to do – do what you want to do or do nothing at all. the animals work away every day and the humans think away every day.
of course i am not comparing humans to animals but it is interesting to look at the animals and see that they are just getting on with what they need to get on with while humans toil away in their thoughts.
don’t get me wrong – thoughts are good – they can change the world for the better
but maybe we should act more like animals once in awhile and just get on with it
i don’t consider myself to be an overly religious person – but what i have learned recently is that the devil is out there trying to influence people to think or do bad things. i am now committed to resist the devil trying to influence me and i am also noticing the devil influencing others to say or do wrong things – and because of that – i will move away from those people
the real power of life is to continue on in your life without giving in to bad things. stay on the right track. keep your tight grip on life. follow your strong good habits. follow your consistent good routine. keep getting out of bed. keep doing what you are supposed to do. do not give up your life when you still have life to live. this is real power. to stay in the fight of life. to not leave the ring until it is truly your time. if you can make it to the end with your honor intact – with your dignity intact – with your character intact – it will be then and only then when you have won the game of life. stay strong and stay in the game – do not yield to things that want to pull you out of the game. this is real power – staying the course no matter what.
this empty nest thing is very interesting. you spend 20 years raising kids to get ready for the world and then one day they are gone. you come home after dropping them off at college and the first thing that you do is cry like a baby. you cry because your life of the last 20 years has changed significantly – in what seems like an instant. it feels like a death in the family. the person is gone – time to clear out the food, the clothes, etc.
you devote so much of your time and energy into other people’s lives that it seems like a moment of shock when you don’t have to do that anymore. you suddenly realize that you have moved back into an earlier phase of your life – the life before kids. but this time you are 20-30 years older and you have become dependent on your dependents!
so what do you do when the tears dry up? many people keep crying and seem to go into mourning for some time. they can’t handle it – they want to have their old life back – when there were more people around the house – when life seemed more alive -when you were needed more by other people.
others jump for joy – freedom is finally here! – let’s go! let’s travel! let’s do whatever we want! we all eventually get to this feeling but sometimes it takes awhile. you have to reset your mind, you have to reset your habits, you have to reset your routines – and you have to get used to living with your spouse again – one on one.
at the end of the day, this is just another phase in life and like all phases – we must learn to adapt to the new phase. we must move forward and embrace this new empty nest phase. we must not look back – we must look forward and enjoy the life we have left.
